Women are the pre­dom­in­ant vic­tims of viol­ence at the hands of men they know. In this talk from TEDx­Can­ber­ra 2015, Dina McMil­lan explains how she teaches women how to identi­fy the signs of poten­tial viol­ence before it hap­pens.

Dr Dina McMil­lan is a social psy­cho­lo­gist with a Master’s degree and PhD from Stan­ford Uni­ver­sity in Cali­for­nia.

In 2006 she iden­ti­fied the spe­cific tac­tics used by abusers to estab­lish and main­tain abus­ive rela­tion­ships. Dr McMil­lan pub­lished a ground-break­ing book, But He Says He Loves Me: How to Avoid Being Trapped in a Manip­u­lat­ive Rela­tion­ship, which offers rare insight into the minds of abus­ive pred­at­ors and details the care­ful strategy of manip­u­la­tion they use to ensnare women in abus­ive rela­tion­ships.

This know­ledge has been craf­ted into a unique set of pre­ven­tion pro­grams called Unmask­ing the Abuser, designed for early inter­ven­tion and improved respon­se. It offers a sim­ple way to reduce the num­ber of teen girls and women in abus­ive rela­tion­ships with tools to clearly identi­fy the manip­u­lat­ive tac­tics used by abusers even in the first stages of a rela­tion­ship. It also high­lights the ways teen girls and women can assess their own vul­ner­ab­il­ity and then min­im­ise it.